When you argue, are you arguing to understand? To work it out?
Or, like most of us, are you arguing to WIN?
Here's a hard truth:
If one of you is winning, both of you are losing.
So STOP trying to win and start living in the relationship you WANT.
Instead of arguing to win, try this:
1. Listen to understand, not to respond
2. Speak with the intention to help your partner understand you. Assume they WANT to work with you, not against you.
3. Remember this is someone you love (or at the very least someone you like and have to live with)
4. Lastly, if you're just going in circles, remember agreeing isn't the most important thing. The relationship is. I bet you've had this same argument a hundred times. Trust it will still be there, and go ahead and lean into this human you love for now instead.
I know it feels complex when you're in the middle of it. That's why I'm here.
Grow into the relationship you long for. Gain influence, let go of anger, and build something equitable, respectful and passionate in the process.
It won't take years. Just a few weeks.
Are you ready?
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