Have you ever wondered HOW you end up in the same conflict, regardless of the topic of conversation?Â
We all have CORE NEGATIVE BELIEFS. And I think most of us are aware of this at least to an extent.Â
Perhaps you believe people can't really be trusted, because of childhood trauma. Or that you can't trust YOURSELF, because you were never allowed to make mistakes without big consequences.
But did you know we also have a core negative belief about our partner?Â
Yup. And, even better, our core negative belief about them often interacts with their core negative belief about US. And that's how we end up on that conflict-merry-go round. ðŸŽ
Figuring out these beliefs, understanding that they are exaggerations, is the hardest part for couples do on their own. That, and figuring out how to break away from it.Â
And you don't have to. Do it on your own, that is.Â
There is so much advice that I give in these emails and social media posts, and implimenting it will absolutely make a huge difference! You can shift your whole relationship with some tweaks!Â
But if you're feeling like you're stuck on that merry-go-round, having the same conflict over and over again, withdrawing because...what's the point if it's just going to end the same way (again)Â
It might be time for a little support.Â
Good news, it doesn't need to take years of therapy to break this cycle, and get off the merry-go-round for good.Â
If you're ready for a powerful conversation that will decide the future of your relationship, schedule a relationship strategy call with me and I will help you figure out exactly what needs to happen to meet all your #couplegoals.
You and your relationship are worth the time and energy now, to save the time and money down the road (I promise a lawyer costs more than my coaching program)
Your relationship cheerleader,
Linnea
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